I know that you have experienced some pain in the past, pain that has shaped who you are today. It may be an event that has made you a stronger person, or it could have made you do things differently. Preventing you from doing the things that you really want to do.
Which ever the case is, it is not really important. What’s important is that when you look back on those events, they still have a strong hold on you. You still feel the same things you felt back then, as though you had instantly been taken back to that event and reliving it again. How do these defining events fit into your life today? Do you use them as proof that you can get through tough times, or do you use them as an excuse to stop you from doing what needs to be done in certain situations?